Your Friend or mine?
After a recent experience I have realised that some people for whatever reason are very protective of friends.
Now I don't mean standing up for them if someone bad-mouths them or worrying that they will get hurt when they start dating a new man (we all do that) I mean want to keep them to themselves, never to share.
I found this very strange as I have never really been like this. To me a getting a new friend is like finding a cute new bag, next time I'm out with my friends I want to bring them along and show everyone how cute they are and I take great pleasure in someone telling me my new pal is nice. I spend my time telling new people "just wait until you meet so-and-so, they'll adore you I can tell" I love to think that the people I love the most love each other.
I was thinking about this more as tonight I am out with two of my friends, one who I have known for nearly two years and another who I have known for about a year. I got them talking together and they are now dating. I really enjoy the fact that two people I care about have found some joy with each other and enjoy them both as individuals and a couple. I sometimes wonder if I had been a protective friend would I be happy? Would I be bitter that my male friend wasn't desperately in love with me and not my female friend? Would I have been angry at my female friend for using me to get to some totty? would I be angry at them both for finding someone to bring joy to their lives other then me?
posted by Golgotha_Tramp @ 2:02 PM
5 Comments:
I agree with you that friendship, in its best sense, should be as you say - one friendship leading to another leading to another - spreading the love! :)
But I imagine this "protection" may arise from an anxiety over being excluded. You introduced a gal and a guy and now they share an intimacy that doesn't include you.
So it's absolutely lovely that not only did you inspire their special bond, you can also enjoy it!
They call it a friend-ship for a reason. It's meant to be a big ship where friends of friends can meet each other. And yes, you get to be the captain.
UW is obviously having a pirate themed week!
Does that mean I get to say 'oo aaarh Jim-lad!' and tell people to scrub the poop deck (he he he poop!)
Haha! I love UW's description of friend-ship. Though I often like the intimacy and informality of a canoe to the extravagance of a yacht or enormity of a cruise ship :)
yes definitely!
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